Types of Cheating
Physical cheating as we all know is the cheating that involves any physical involvement with a person who is not your significant other. This will involve smooching, kissing, caressing, and eventually having any type of sexual gratification of any form with another person other than your partner. Anything that gives sexual pleasure, which you engage in with another person other than your partner, might be considered physical cheating. In terms of financial cheating, it involves any type of lies and acts of infidelity and untruthfulness when it comes to the financial dealings between the two partners. It might involve such things as not revealing your true earnings, hiding some purchases, and not being truthful about your debts and other finances. In some societies, many people might not consider it as cheating, but in the UK and other developed nations, it is considered a clear cut form of cheating and marriage infidelity, though many people might not pay much attention to it. The next is the emotional cheating, and here it involves getting emotionally connected with another apart from your partner. There are situations where you allow yourself to grow some level of emotional intimacy with another, to the extent that you start letting that person know about your own emotions and feelings. These will lead to some emotional attachment that will involve exchange of deep and intimate information etc. This is another way you can cheat on someone.
Now, let us go into the proper topic of the article. Because of the level we have gone in trying to deemphasize the things of the physical and emphasize the superiority and relevance of the emotional and spiritual things, many people have openly said that whenever there is a case of emotional cheating, it signals something more grievous than physical cheating. Meanwhile, there are so many out there who see the physical aspect of physical cheating as being much more grievous than the emotional cheating, while majority even say that two of them are on the same pedestal and that there should be no ranking as it concerns the one that is worse and the one that is lesser.
Reasons why Emotional Cheating is Worse
For the proponents of emotional cheating being worse, they argue that when you cheat on someone emotionally, it signifies and act of betrayal. Here, it is believed that physical cheating might just be on you because of the urge and desire to have sex, even when you do not have any strings attached. But when it is emotional, it simply implies having another person’s secrets and emotional rights poured out to an undeserving other. This will also lead to the next reason which is because of the intimacy involved. You might argue that there is nothing to do with sex, but have you realized that marriage is not all about sex. It is simply about two people who love each other coming to live together and help each other. In fact for the Christians, it means the two of them becoming one, and because of this, it will involve all forms of intimacy. Your partner must be your friend, councilor, adviser and confidant, etc. Whenever you betray this confidence by confiding in another, it pains more than just sex. This is because in emotional relationship, there is serious intimacy. It involves a sort of meaningful emotional attachment, and whenever a man gives this attachment to another woman or a woman gives it to another man, the rightful partner is denied their own emotional intimacy, since the cheat cannot serve two masters at a time. It creates intimacy with the other person, and takes it away from the rightful owner.
The worse part of this type of relationship is that the partner’s heart is given, and whenever there is an exchange of heart and mind, then there is love and serious love. When the love has been transferred to another, it is completely withdrawn from the rightful partner, because you can never love two at the same time. This is not the case in physical relationship which is something that might even occur in 30 minutes time, even without prior knowledge of the person you are doing it with. There is no love involved here. Another thing is that the emotional cheating takes time to build. It takes several stages and months before you can get attached to a person emotionally. What it means is that when the process was going on, the person has the chance to come to his or her senses, but completely refused to do so. This signals an unrepentant partner and will cause more heartbreak. Again, since it takes time to build, before you can severe it, you will even need more time. All these make it something you will not like to engage in, it is worse.
Again, it jeopardizes the safety of both the cheating partner and the other. This is because due to the intimacy, some things about the relationship and even some secrets about the couples would have been divulged to the other partner. This keeps the two of them at risk if the affair partner decides to be wicked. Another thing is that it involves serious connection between the two. If your partner is involved in emotional cheating and you find out, there is the likelihood that if you break up with your partner, he or she will immediately end up with the affair partner, because they are connected. But it is not so in physical cheating. Many people who see physical cheating as being more grievous say that this is because it is the one you can imagine and envision, and it will always hurt you when you do this. For them it also involves the body which is the first thing we loved about the person, before the heart. They also believe that physical cheating either starts with emotional cheating or ends up with it. But the truth is that emotional is worse than physical cheating.